Asking for help doesn't make you weak, vulnerable, or incompetent. Instead, it makes you stronger, braver, and happier.
The Woman Post | Carolina Rodríguez Monclou
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One of the reasons it is so hard to ask for help is because we underestimate other people's willingness to aid. However, global research has shown that people have high helping behaviors.
Wayne Baker is a sociologist, and the pen behind "All You Have to Do Is Ask: How to Master the Most Important Skill for Success." But what the title of the book doesn't reveal is that the essential skill to succeed is being able to ask for help when you need it.
Although the majority over-rely on self-resilience, this shouldn't be the case. According to the author, 85% of Americans would rather depend on themselves than others. Unfortunately, this individualistic mindset is causing isolation and keeping people from asking for help, which raises the suicide rates.
Many people don't want to be seen as weak because they perceive social costs to seeking help. There's a cultural expectation that we're supposed to have all the answers and be able to figure it out, but it doesn't have to be like that.
To have a healthy lifestyle, it's crucial to find wellness at home and work. Sadly, as our work culture lacks psychological safety, many people find adverse effects on their office.
Thanks to the pandemic, there has been a significant movement regarding corporate life and mental health. Now it is a priority for many companies to create psychological safety in workplaces. Regarding this matter, systems or structures can get in the way.
As the COVID-19 cases continue to rise globally, most of our lives have been moved to Zoom and teleworking. For this reason, some people may find it challenging to pull somebody aside and ask for help.
It's essential to know what to request or how to ask for help. Many people going through challenging times aren't very skilled in articulating their needs, so they don't even know how to ask for help.
A great place to start is to speak up and figure out what might be helpful to you. Health professionals are good at answering questions about what healing and help might look like for each person.
Many people worry they haven't earned the privilege of asking for help. They instead give before they receive, which can end up being very harmful.
Don't fear seeming selfish for telling someone else about your problems. Your loved ones won't see you as takers or weak. This kind of fear shouldn't get in the way of asking for help. It's essential to be more vocal and visible about how you rely on others.
Going to a therapist is always a great option to find help if you don't feel comfortable talking about private matters with friends or family members.
Maybe some of these reasons why asking for help is so tricky sound familiar to you. Remember to set those harmful ideas aside and begin that process of taking a step into some limited space asking for help.
Instead of being paralyzed by fear, see what happens. Start judging by the research and not the negative thoughts inside your head. There's a lot of people out there that want to help you.